1. Firstly, life is like a hotel. You check in and check out when God wants you. Therefore, we have to live our life as spiritually and morally as possible.
2. We need to take care of our bodies and not abuse it as it is a temple. We need to love ourselves better. If we have issues, it is important to take responsibility and not blame others.
3. Find out who really has your best interests at heart. Ask yourself, if you are blessed and acquire wealth and knowledge, will your family love you for yourself or just by the mere association? Will they tell you what you want or need to hear? Will they sell you out when you die for a mere buck? Who will have your back and instil a tough love approach if they get out of line?
4. Surround yourself with good people and not people who may lead you astray or yes men. Yes, we are all humans and can easily be influenced. With God in one's life, temptations can be overcome.
5. In this world where we have a system of raising people and tearing them down, would anyone want their children to possess and explore such a gift if they cannot handle the perils of fame? What about the extra burden of being a role model? It also dawned on me that people with this extraordinary gift, always have K leg. For instance, Michael Jackson with his vitiligo and addiction issues, Amy Winehouse with her alcohol problems, some start doing satanic things with the Illuminati rubbish. They know themselves.
6. Never feel pressurized about what your community think of you, for will they have your back when the chips are down? Marry for love and not what is expected of you. Don't embark on a relationship because you feel that your biological clock is ticking. Look beyond money, and determine what values you and your partner share. Apart from giving you children, what else can he do to bring value to your life. What can you do for him, as marriage is 50/50 give and take.
7. Do we as parents have to give up on our adult children when they leave home? No, they still need us whether they are 20 or 40. Keep in touch with your kids, as they would always need that emotional and spiritual support. The worse thing for any parent is to outlive their children.
8. It is important as our children grow up, especially in their teen years, to not become that "helicopter parent" always hovering but encourage our kids to become independent. I think I can speak for some who attended boarding schools in Nigeria, that our parents did just that. It may have not been pleasant at the time but made us the ladies we are today. Maybe on a certain level we could try and emulate that.
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