The Grace of Detachment: 7 ways to Yield in Prayer (Catholic Guide 2026).

 In Catholicism, yielding in prayer involves surrendering oneself to the will of God and acknowledging his sovereignty. Here are some ways we Catholics yield in prayer:

1. Submission to God's Will: Catholics often pray for God's will to be done in their lives, trusting that His plans are ultimately for their good. This involves relinquishing personal desires and submitting to God's wisdom and guidance.

2. Trust and Surrender: Catholics may express trust and surrender in prayer by acknowledging their dependence on God's grace and providence. They may pray phrases such as "Thy will be done" or "Not my will, but Yours be done," demonstrating a willingness to accept whatever God ordains.

3. Confession and Repentance: Yielding in prayer can involve confessing sins and shortcomings before God and asking for His forgiveness and mercy. This act of humility and contrition acknowledges one's need for God's grace and healing.

4. Openness to God's Presence: Yielding in prayer also involves being open and receptive to God's presence and guidance. Catholics may cultivate an attitude of listening and discernment, allowing God to speak to them through scripture, silence, or the promptings of the Holy Spirit.

5. Intercessory Prayer: Catholics may yield in prayer by interceding for others, lifting their needs and concerns to God. This act of selflessness and compassion reflects a desire to align one's prayers with God's heart for justice, mercy, and reconciliation.

6. Perseverance and Trust: Yielding in prayer often requires perseverance and trust, especially in times of difficulty, uncertainty, or unanswered prayers. Catholics may continue to pray with faith and hope, trusting in God's faithfulness and timing.

7. Acting in Accordance with Faith: Yielding in prayer extends beyond words to actions that reflect one's faith and commitment to God. Catholics may seek to live out their prayers by practising love, compassion, and justice in their relationships and daily lives.

Importance of Dream boards

 A dream board is a picture of your dreams, goals, and aspirations. It usually has pictures, words, and phrases that show what someone wants to happen in their life. Dream boards are often made on a poster board or canvas, but they can also be made digitally.

Bedtime Blessings: Best Christian Nighttime Prayers for Kids 4-7 Years Old.

Introducing a bedtime prayer routine is one of the most powerful ways to nurture a child's faith and provide a sense of security at the end of the day. For children aged 4 to 7, Christian night time prayers should be simple, comforting, and rooted in God’s love. Whether your child is dealing with nighttime fears or simply learning to say "thank you," these short, rhyming prayers are designed to help them rest in the peace of Jesus. In this guide, we provide 10 easy-to-learn prayers that help UK families build a consistent, faith-filled bedtime routine. 

"Love & Reflection: Embracing Valentine's Day and Ash Wednesday Together

Yes, it's Valentine's Day, February the 14th and guess what it's also Ash Wednesday the beginning of Lent 2024.

Usually on Valentine's Day, restaurants are booked till the tilt, there are red roses with chocolates and champagne on ice. Endless possibilities. Romance is in the air and a lot of people go all out to express their love to each other, yada yada yada.

This year, a lot of people, especially Christians will probably be pondering how they are going to amalgamate the two events, as during Lent, we as Catholics are not allowed to have any meat products (abstinence) and required to fast. It will also be very challenging if a person has certain dietary requirements.

Well, the only answer I can come up with is before any love of mankind, 

loving God is first and foremost because God is Love. Use this moment of praying, fasting and abstinence as a moment to reflect and be grateful to God for his endless mercies. Focus on the following quotes:

 

“I love You, O my God, and my only desire is to love You until the last breath of my life. I love You, O my infinitely lovable God, and I would rather die loving You, than live without loving You. I love You, Lord, and the only grace I ask is to love You eternally… My God, if my tongue cannot say in every moment that I love You, I want my heart to repeat it to You as often as I draw breath.” St. John Vianney

 

As Lent is the time for greater love, listen to Jesus’ thirst…’ Repent and believe’ Jesus tells us. What are we to repent? Our indifference, our hardness of heart. What are we to believe? Jesus thirsts even now, in your heart and in the poor — He knows your weakness. He wants only your love, wants only the chance to love you.” St. Mother Teresa of Calcutta 

It's not all doom and gloom. We can always celebrate the material Valentine's Day's things a day before or after Valentine's Day, and we just have to be very creative with the meal selection.  Intermittent fasting can be adopted. 

 

Here is a sample menu, I created thanks to ChatGPT. I wanted a diabetic friendly menu with an African twist. 

 

What do you think? 

Appetizer:

• Grilled Vegetable Skewers with Suya Spice
• Suya Spiced Grilled Plantain
• West African Akara (Bean Fritters)
  

Main Course:

• Jollof Cauliflower Rice with Grilled Shrimp
• Moroccan Spiced Baked Chicken with Harissa Sauce (using skinless, lean chicken breast).

Side Dishes:

• Moin Moin (Steamed Bean Pudding) made with reduced sugar or sugar-free option
• Sautéed Spinach with Garlic and Tomatoes

Dessert:

• Fresh Fruit Salad with a hint of mint
• Sugar-Free Chocolate Avocado Mousse
  

Beverages:

• Ginger Hibiscus Iced Tea (unsweetened or sweetened with a sugar-free sweetener)
• Infused Water with Citrus Fruits and Mint Leaves

 I also had the opportunity to bless a new cross that I had bought. 

 

How are you celebrating Valentine's Day this year, 2024 ?

Harnessing Faith: A Young Catholic's Guide

Stepping into your Catholic faith as a young person can feel like navigating a labyrinth. You are trying to find a balance between your faith and the everyday challenges that life throws at you. It is a journey filled with highs and lows, questions, doubts, and moments of enlightenment. I remember, as a young catholic, I struggled with my faith. My mother was a typical catholic who instilled in us children the deep catholic faith, but for some reason I was not getting it and boarding school was not helping. Now with hindsight, if I had to speak to my 16-year-old self, I would have wanted better guidance.

Henceforth, this guide is meant to offer young people a roadmap as they learn to harness our faith in their journey as a young Catholic.

Understanding the Essence of Catholic Faith.

Catholicism isn't merely a checklist of principles or codes of behaviour. It's a profoundly intimate journey towards forging a stronger bond with God. At the heart of this faith lies the teachings of Jesus Christ, anchored in values such as love, mercy, service, and humility.
The Sacraments play a vital role too. Comprising Baptism, Confirmation, the Eucharist, Reconciliation, Anointing of the Sick, Marriage, and Holy Orders, they act as conduits of divine grace, guiding us on our path to emulate Christ. They are not just rituals, but signposts in our spiritual journey, each one marking a significant moment of communion with God and growth in faith.
In essence, Catholic faith is about understanding and embracing these foundational aspects. It's about an ongoing conversation with God, a commitment to live according to Christ's teachings, and the deep desire to cultivate a personal relationship with our Creator. This is the bedrock upon which Catholicism is built. Understanding this helps us appreciate the true meaning and richness of our faith.

Embracing Prayer as a Lifestyle.

Prayer serves as a pivotal pillar within the structure of the Catholic faith. It's much more than reciting verses or uttering holy words; it's an intimate dialogue with God. While structured prayers, like the Rosary or the Our Father, play an essential role, it's crucial to remember that prayer can also be informal and deeply personal. Chat to Him as you would with a close friend, expressing your happiness, concerns, ambitions and fears. Strive to incorporate prayer into your daily routine seamlessly, not as an obligation, but as a cherished habit as fundamental as your meals or sleep.
Think of prayer not just as a lifeline but as the air you breathe, an essential, natural part of your everyday life. By embracing prayer as a lifestyle, you strengthen your bond with God and continue to grow in your faith. There's no 'one-size-fits-all' approach, so find what works for you. Perhaps it's praying in the tranquillity of the early morning, or seeking solace in prayer before sleep. Maybe it's during a peaceful walk in nature or amidst the hum of a busy commute. The where and when aren't as vital as the act itself and the intention behind it. Remember, God is always listening, so talk to Him, because every conversation brings you closer to Him. So, let's make prayer an integral part of your life, a spiritual dialogue that provides strength, comfort and guidance in your journey as a young Catholic.

Nurturing a Personal Relationship with God.

Creating a personal bond with God might appear a Herculean task for young Catholics, yet it's about carving a deeper, heartfelt connection with the divine, rather than just observing religious practices. Incorporate quiet moments into your daily routine where you can listen out for God’s voice. Approach the Holy Scriptures with a sense of curiosity and openness, not just with the intent of reading, but to contemplate and let the words touch your soul. Participate wholeheartedly in the Mass. See it not as a mere responsibility but as a chance to build community with God and fellow worshippers. Cultivating a personal bond with God is about discovering those sacred spaces in your life and inviting Him in, ensuring a rich, spiritual growth.

Balancing Faith and Everyday Life

Navigating the tumultuous waters of youth, it's not uncommon to feel overwhelmed when trying to harmonise your Catholic faith with everyday life. It may seem a colossal task while juggling academics, friendships, extracurricular pursuits, and possibly even a part-time job. However, your faith needn't feel like another item to tick off your list. It can, in fact, form the core of your life, subtly intertwined with your daily activities. Imagine initiating your day with a prayer of gratitude, or silently saying a prayer before a significant exam. Consider offering assistance to someone in need, or making the conscious choice to respond with kindness and patience, even in trying situations. Each such moment presents an opportunity to live out your faith in practical ways. It's not so much about grand gestures as it is about small, consistent acts of faith, integrated into your routine. Each decision, each action, echoing your faith, can bring about a harmonious fusion of your spiritual and worldly life. As a young Catholic, balancing faith with everyday life may require some adjustment, but it's more than achievable; it's a beautiful journey.

Serving Others as a Reflection of Your Faith

In the tapestry of Catholic faith, the golden thread of service to others weaves through its very fabric. Christ Himself underscored this, as reflected in Matthew 25:40: "Whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me". This call to action is not restricted to grandiose gestures. Instead, it can be found in the humility of everyday acts: offering your time at a neighbourhood charity, lending a supportive shoulder to a friend, or standing against unfairness in any form. These deeds, though seemingly small, resonate with the echo of your faith, becoming a beacon of Christ’s love and compassion.

Coping with Doubts and Challenges

It's natural to experience periods of doubt and uncertainty during your spiritual journey. These moments can come unannounced, leaving you questioning the very foundation of your Catholic faith. Don't shy away from these doubts or see them as a sign of wavering faith. Instead, consider them a necessary stepping stone towards spiritual growth.
Treat these questions as an opportunity to delve deeper into the essence of your faith, to seek answers, and to strengthen your relationship with God. Share your thoughts and concerns with trusted confidants like a spiritual leader, a religious educator, or a faith-filled companion. Their insights and advice could prove invaluable in helping you navigate through these challenging times.
Furthermore, consider turning to prayer during these periods of uncertainty. Open your heart to God and engage in honest conversation about your doubts. Trust in His guidance and His unconditional love for you.
Remember, grappling with doubts and challenges doesn't signal a lack of faith. On the contrary, it highlights your commitment to understanding your faith on a profound level. So, embrace these moments, seek guidance, and watch your faith grow stronger and more resilient. After all, your journey as a young Catholic is not about having all the answers, but about learning, growing, and evolving in your faith.

Embarking on a Catholic Journey: 10 Must-Read Books in 2024

I am not one to preach but one of the ways I have enhanced my catholic faith is to read some books. 

I was in the library the other day and they did not have much selection dedicated to the catholic ministry, neither did I find any religious section, howevver, I was pleasently surprised that my sister gave me a stash of catholic books when she relocated.

As you embark on your journey into Catholic ministry this 2024, you'll find that there are countless resources available to aid in your spiritual and intellectual growth. Here are ten books that stand out for their insights and wisdom into the faith. These works delve into the intricacies of Catholicism, uncovering its rich history, philosophies, and traditions, while guiding you to a deeper understanding of the divine mysteries. I would recommend creating a little library in your house or apartment.

 The Holy Bible  

The Seven Storey Mountain' by Thomas Merton

  Immerse yourself in the captivating story of Thomas Merton, a Trappist monk, as he transitions from a secular existence to a profound spiritual quest in 'The Seven Storey Mountain.' His autobiography is a compelling narration of his transformation, taking readers on a journey that uncovers the essence of monastic life within the Trappist order. As you delve into Merton's experiences, you will gain an appreciation of the contemplative life, offering you insights that can potentially shape your path to Catholic ministry. This work not only fascinates but also encourages reflection on one's spiritual awakening and dedication to faith. The Seven Storey Mountain first appeared in print in America in October 1948. The planned print run for The Seven Storey Mountain was 5,000 copies.

The Confessions' by Saint Augustine

 
Delve into the life and transformation of Saint Augustine through his seminal work, 'The Confessions.' This classic piece of Christian literature takes the reader on Augustine's journey from a life of worldly desires to a state of profound spiritual awakening. With raw honesty and philosophical profundity, Augustine examines the intricate dynamics of faith and human nature. His poignant reflections on his past, his conversion, and his pursuit of divine truth reveal the transformative power of God’s grace. 'The Confessions' presents a candid exploration of sin, grace, and redemption, offering deep insights into the human condition and the spiritual journey towards God. This book is more than just an autobiography; it’s a heartfelt dialogue with God, making it a must-read for anyone embarking on a journey into Catholic ministry. [Saint Augustine is the author of 'The Confessions of St. Augustine'](https://www.britannica.com/biography/Saint-Augustine)

The Interior Castle' by Saint Teresa of Avila

 
Dive into the intriguing world of Catholic mysticism with 'The Interior Castle', penned by Saint Teresa of Avila, one of the esteemed Doctors of the Church. With a compelling metaphor of a castle made of crystal, Saint Teresa paints a vivid image of the soul's journey towards divine union. This journey, as per her revelations, consists of seven mansions, or stages, each signifying a level of spiritual evolution. Through her profound insights and analogies, she provides a tangible roadmap for personal spiritual advancement. This seminal work invites you to explore your spiritual depths, making it a crucial guide for those aspiring for Catholic ministry. Engage with 'The Interior Castle' to understand the intricate path towards divine intimacy.
 

Orthodoxy' by G.K. Chesterton

 
In the engaging prose of 'Orthodoxy,' esteemed writer G.K. Chesterton constructs a compelling argument in defence of Christianity, a testament that resonates powerfully even today. Within its pages, you'll traverse Chesterton's personal faith journey, laced with his characteristic wit, humour, and contemplative reflections. This book doesn't merely present a narrative; it challenges you, the reader, to view the world through a Catholic lens. With each page, Chesterton encourages a questioning mind, providing his unique insights as to why the teachings of the Catholic Church are inherently coherent and profound. 'Orthodoxy' presents an intellectual engagement with faith that both captivates and provokes thoughtful introspection. This read is not to be missed on your path towards Catholic ministry.
 

The Story of a Soul' by Saint Thérèse of Lisieux

 
Immerse yourself in the fascinating world of Saint Thérèse of Lisieux, often affectionately known as 'The Little Flower', through her autobiographical work, 'The Story of a Soul'. The book elucidates her unique approach to spirituality, coined as the 'Little Way' of spiritual childhood. A beautifully simple yet profound path, it encourages humility, trust in divine Providence, and surrendering oneself entirely to God's will. As you navigate through the pages of this touching narrative, you'll be captivated by Thérèse's unshakeable faith and her sincere love for God. Her extraordinary insights into the essence of simplicity and selflessness in spiritual growth can inspire you as you prepare for your ministry. This heartfelt autobiography is not merely a story; it’s an intimate exploration of a soul's journey towards God.
 

To Know Christ Jesus' by F.J. Sheed

F.J. Sheed's 'To Know Christ Jesus' delves into the life of Jesus Christ, presenting an evocative and vivid portrait of His existence. With the four Gospels as its foundation, this remarkable book weaves in historical contexts with theological insights, bridging the gap between the first-century world of Jesus and the contemporary reader. This isn't merely a recounting of events, but rather, an invitation to engage personally and profoundly with Jesus, developing a deeper relationship and understanding of His life and teachings. As you flip through the pages of this enlightening book, you'll be drawn closer to Christ, paving your way towards a greater understanding and commitment to your calling in Catholic ministry. 'To Know Christ Jesus' is indeed a captivating journey into the heart of Christian faith, illuminating the life of Christ in a way that speaks to the reader's heart and mind.
 

The Lamb’s Supper: The Mass as Heaven on Earth' by Scott Hahn

 
Scott Hahn's 'The Lamb’s Supper: The Mass as Heaven on Earth' is an absorbing read that peels back the layers of the Catholic Mass, enriching our understanding of this sacred ritual. Hahn masterfully draws connections between the liturgy and the apocalyptic vision of the Book of Revelation, making parallels that often go unnoticed. This enlightening book offers a fresh perspective on the Mass, positioning it as a reflection of heavenly worship. It's not simply an analysis; it's a gripping exploration that fuses theology, scripture and liturgical practice. 'The Lamb’s Supper' presents an unexpected, yet compelling, interpretation of the Mass, one that deepens the reader’s appreciation for this central aspect of Catholic worship. As such, it is an invaluable resource for those preparing for Catholic ministry, offering an enriched understanding of the Eucharist and its profound significance in the faith journey. Embark on this fascinating exploration with Scott Hahn, and discover the heavenly dimensions of the Mass that await your discovery.
 

Summa Theologica' by Saint Thomas Aquinas

 
Unravel the complexities of Catholic theology with Saint Thomas Aquinas' magnum opus, 'Summa Theologica'. This scholarly masterpiece is a comprehensive exploration of all facets of Catholic theology, delving into topics as diverse as the nature of God to the finer details of moral theology. Whilst this monumental work may seem daunting initially, its profound depth provides a strong foundation for understanding the philosophical underpinnings of Catholic doctrine. Aquinas' meticulous yet profound approach to theology makes this a staple read for those journeying into Catholic ministry. As you immerse yourself in the profound wisdom within its pages, you will develop a deeper appreciation of the intellectual richness of the Catholic faith. 'Summa Theologica', despite its challenging nature, is an invaluable resource for those seeking to unravel the philosophical and theological mysteries of Catholicism. Your journey into Catholic ministry would indeed be incomplete without diving into the intellectual treasure trove that is 'Summa Theologica'.
 

Catholicism: A Journey to the Heart of the Faith' by Bishop Robert Barron

 
Embark on a comprehensive voyage through the Catholic faith with Bishop Robert Barron's 'Catholicism: A Journey to the Heart of the Faith'. This enlightening read maps out the expansive landscape of Catholic history, doctrine, and rituals, serving as an ideal guide for those venturing into Catholic ministry. Bishop Barron, with his accessible prose, illuminates the grandeur of the Catholic tradition, helping readers appreciate the depth and breadth of this ancient faith. His book is not merely a recital of facts; it's an invitation to experience the profound beauty, intellectual rigour, and transformative power of Catholicism. As you traverse the pages of this compelling work, you'll find yourself on a spiritual journey, rediscovering the intricacies of your faith anew. It’s an exploration that uncovers the beating heart of Catholicism, making it an indispensable companion for those ready to commit themselves to Catholic ministry. So, dive into this intellectual and spiritual expedition with Bishop Barron, and let him guide you deeper into the heart of your faith.
 

Mere Christianity' by C.S. Lewis

 
Though not explicitly Catholic, C.S. Lewis's 'Mere Christianity' is an indispensable resource for understanding the foundational elements of Christian belief. Renowned for his clear and engaging writing style, Lewis presents an exploration of Christian doctrines and moral precepts that resonate across denominational boundaries. The book beautifully encapsulates the core beliefs that unify all Christians, making it an essential read for those embarking on Catholic ministry. As you navigate through its pages, you'll encounter Lewis's illuminating insights into the essence of faith, virtue, and divine love. 'Mere Christianity' offers more than a dissection of religious theory; it invites readers into a thoughtful contemplation of their faith journey. This classic work, with its universal Christian teachings, is a rich addition to your ministerial preparation. Dive into this literary gem with C.S. Lewis, and uncover the universality that lies at the heart of Christianity.

Prayer for Healing By St Padre Pio

 

Heavenly father, 

I thank you for loving me.

I thank you for sending your son, Lord Jesus Christ, to the world to the world to save and to set me free. I trust in your power and grace that sustain and restore me.

Loving father, touch me now and with your healing hand. For I believe that I believe that your will is for me to be well in mind body and soul body and soul and spirit.   

Cover me with the most precious blood of your son, our Lord Jesus Christ, from the top of my head to the soles of my feet. Cast anything that should not be in me. Root out any unhealthy and abnormal cells, open any blocked arteries or veins, and rebuild and replenish any damaged areas.  

Remove all inflammation and cleanse any infection by the power of Jesus precious blood.  

Let the fire of your healing love, pass through my entire body, to heal and make new any diseased areas, so that my body will function, the way you created it to function. Touch, also my mind and my emotions, even the deepest recesses of my heart. 

Saturate my entire being with your presence, love, joy and peace, and draw me ever closer to you, every moment of my life.  And Father, fill me with your Holy Spirit and empower me to do your work.  So that my life will bring glory and honour to your holy name, I ask this in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ. Amen. 

Praise the Lord, thank you, Jesus, praise you Jesus, thank you father, praise your father. Hallelujah.

A Conversation with God

It's March, and we are all coping with the 'Beast from the East' extreme weather, in the UK. Here's hoping as Spring comes soon. 

Here is another Inspirational poem as we approach Easter.

Me: God, can I ask You a question?

God: Sure

Me: Promise You won't mind

God: I promise

Me: Why did You let so much stuff happen to me today?

God: What do you mean?

Me: Well, I woke up late

God: Yes

Me: My car took forever to start

God: Okay

Me: At lunch, they made my sandwich wrong; I had to wait

God: Hmm

Me: On the way home, my phone went DEAD, just as I picked up a call

God: All right

Me: And on top of it all, when I got home, I just wanted to soak my feet in my new foot massage ; relax. BUT it wouldn't work!!! Nothing went right today! Why did You do that?

God: Let me see, the death angel was at your bed this morning & I had to send one of My Angels to battle him for your life. I let you sleep through that

Me (humbled): OH

GOD: I didn't let your car start because there was a drunk driver on your route that would have hit you if you were on the road.

Me: (ashamed)

God: The first person who made your sandwich today was sick & I didn't want you to catch what they have. I knew you couldn't afford to miss work.

Me (embarrassed):Okay

God: Your phone went dead because the person that was calling was going to give false witness about what you said on that call. I didn't even let you talk to them so you would be covered.

Me (softly): I see God

God: Oh and that foot massage, it had a shortage that was going to throw out all the power in your house tonight. I didn't think you wanted to be in the dark.

Me: I'm Sorry God

God: Don't be sorry, just learn to Trust Me ..... in All things, the Good & the bad.

Me: I will trust You.

God: And don't doubt that My plan for your day is Always Better than your plan.

Me: I won't God. And let me just tell you God, Thank You for Everything today

God: You're welcome, child. It was just another day being your God, and I Love looking after My Children.

Getting your mojo back

Negative thinking will get you nowhere. 

I was one of those people that were constantly frustrated and anxious about things that did not matter. 

I thought that life was not fair, no one cared about me, I was not good enough, I was not thin enough. Nothing could convince me otherwise.  I was on my way to ground zero. 

As they say, better late than never. 

It took me until my forties to snap out of it and change my mindset.

I started by taking baby steps, living for the now, and trying to turn every negative situation into an opportunity.  

I also tried to take control of those elements within my control. For instance, exercising to get my blood pressure down.

I had to deal with those issues in my past that kept holding me back. Issues within my family and rejection by friends. 

I also grew to appreciate what I had. My aunt used to say, "money can't buy you happiness" and I used to answer, but it helps. 

It helps to an extent, but having too much money can cause all sorts of complications in one's life. 

When I looked across the aisle I could see a whole lot of people, professional people, here in London now utilising food banks and I am like Wow, "Thank You, Lord".

I am still a work in progress but I am getting there. All I know right now is that I am enough.

 Here are my top tips if you find yourself in a rut and need to get your mojo back.

1. Listen to music
2. Taking care of your mental health and meditate.
3. Prepare for a good night sleep with a single focus activity.
4. Change your mindset
5. Being able to take control
6. Creating a routine for myself and staying accountable.

Stay Blessed

Remembering our loved ones.

November is the month when we remember the souls of the faithfully departed in the Catholic Church.

I lost 2 uncles and a very good friend.  Ages ranged from 46 to 92.
To tell you the truth, I had not seen these people in more than 10 years.
However, due to modern technology, I was able to stay in touch with my very good friend and had spoken to my elderly uncle by phone. My uncles lived a full life whilst my friend was not ready for death, and she was so young and wanted to live.

And it got me thinking about how important it is that we stay in touch and no matter what age that one is to live life to the fullest. Everyone has an expiratory date.

What did these 3 people have in common?

 

They had brief illnesses before passing away.  I hope before they passed, in that lonely space, they had the opportunity to reflect and seek God's Divine intervention as he is a merciful God. However, I will do my bit and pray for their souls and others around the world.

It is important in our faith to remember others who were not even close to us and those souls in purgatory.

Beauty of the Examen

 It is designed to be done in the evening.


Prayer of Examen

Find 15 minutes in your day and review the last 24 hours using the prayer of Examen.  Here is one way to engage in the practice:

Invite the Holy Spirit’s guidance.  Position your body in a posture of attentiveness, but not rigidity – feet flat on the floor, sitting up straight so you can breathe freely.  Take three deep breaths, breathing in God’s blessing and breathing out all that is not of God (your fear, your anxiety, your anger).  Pray this simple prayer, “In your grace, Lord, I want to see the truth of my life through your eyes.  Please reveal it to me.”  Breathe in God’s blessing and breathe out all that is not of God.

Review the day with thanksgiving.  Once you have invited the Holy Spirit’s guidance, name the blessings for which you are thankful in the last 24 hours.  As you do this, remember, this is not a time to “count your blessings,” but rather a time to savor your blessings.  As you savor your blessings, picture Jesus before you, smiling and delighting in you.

Review the feelings that surface.  Now ask yourself what feelings surfaced throughout the last 24 hours.  Did you feel frustrated?  Ashamed?  Disappointed?  Excited?  Joyful?  Pained?   Name the negative and positive feelings.

Choose one or two feelings and pray from it.  Choose a negative feeling and a positive feeling and simply talk to God about those feelings.  Then listen to him.  As you do this, go ahead and let God surprise you.   Behold Jesus beholding you as you present your feelings to him.

Look forward to tomorrow.  Now, look forward.  Tomorrow is a new day and God’s mercies are new each morning.  Ask yourself what you learned today in your prayer of examen and then end your time by asking God for the grace you need to move forward tomorrow.

When I say I am a Christian

On this lovely day of Ash Wednesday, the first day of Lent, it is time to reflect on ourselves as Christians. 

It is particularly challenging when you are catholic. 

Some people have asked me over the years if we are true Christians and why we worship Mary, Mother of God. At first, I used to get annoyed, but now I simply answer them and say "I don't worship her, I venerate her".

 But what is the difference, one might ask? I simply regard our lady with reverence and respect.

I want to share with you a poem that I saw on the net that encompasses mostly how I think of myself as a Christian. 

When I say that 'I am a Christian', I am not shouting that 'I am clean living. I'm whispering, 'I was lost, but now I'm found and forgiven.'

When I say, 'I am a Christian', I don't speak of this with pride. I'm confessing that I stumble and need Christ to be my guide.

When I say 'I am a Christian', I'm not trying to be strong. I'm professing that I'm weak and need His strength to carry on.

When I say 'I am a Christian', I'm not bragging of success. I'm admitting I have failed and need God to clean my mess.

When I say 'I am a Christian', I'm not claiming to be perfect. My flaws are far too visible, but God believes I am worth it.

When I say 'I am a Christian', I still feel the sting of pain. I have my share of heartaches, so I call upon His name.

When I say 'I am a Christian', I'm not holier than thou, I'm just a simple sinner who received God's good grace, somehow!

Its February so love love love

Hiya

It's February, the month of love

Many of us are preparing for Valentine's Day to give Love to our loved ones.

It's time to reflect not just on our love for others, but for one self and one's ability to do things in this life without inhibitions. Like Sugar Ray Robinson says, "To be a champion, you have to believe in yourself when no one else will".  In other words, embrace the champion that you are, believe in yourself and know that you are worth it. Believe you me, you can only give love to others when you love yourself.

In the US, it's also Black History month, a time to reflect on the achievements of Black Americans in general.  As a woman of colour, it's challenging sometimes when we know that we cannot progress due to discrimination and the colour of your skin, and sometimes we feel helpless. You only have to look at the recent Monique situation with pay in the entertainment industry and sigh. However, in this game of life, it does not matter what hands that you are dealt, but how you play them.

I came across a poem that I will share with you that motivates me every time that I question myself and my abilities as a woman and woman of colour.  Enjoy.

More thoughts on Life

1. Firstly, life is like a hotel. You check in and check out when God wants you. Therefore, we have to live our life as spiritually and morally as possible.

2. We need to take care of our bodies and not abuse it as it is a temple. We need to love ourselves better. If we have issues, it is important to take responsibility and not blame others.

3. Find out who really has your best interests at heart. Ask yourself, if you are blessed and acquire wealth and knowledge, will your family love you for yourself or just by the mere association? Will they tell you what you want or need to hear? Will they sell you out when you die for a mere buck? Who will have your back and instil a tough love approach if they get out of line?

4. Surround yourself with good people and not people who may lead you astray or yes men. Yes, we are all humans and can easily be influenced. With God in one's life, temptations can be overcome.

5. In this world where we have a system of raising people and tearing them down, would anyone want their children to possess and explore such a gift if they cannot handle the perils of fame? What about the extra burden of being a role model? It also dawned on me that people with this extraordinary gift, always have K leg. For instance, Michael Jackson with his vitiligo and addiction issues, Amy Winehouse with her alcohol problems, some start doing satanic things with the Illuminati rubbish. They know themselves.

6. Never feel pressurized about what your community think of you, for will they have your back when the chips are down? Marry for love and not what is expected of you. Don't embark on a relationship because you feel that your biological clock is ticking. Look beyond money, and determine what values you and your partner share. Apart from giving you children, what else can he do to bring value to your life. What can you do for him, as marriage is 50/50 give and take.

7. Do we as parents have to give up on our adult children when they leave home? No, they still need us whether they are 20 or 40. Keep in touch with your kids, as they would always need that emotional and spiritual support. The worse thing for any parent is to outlive their children.

8. It is important as our children grow up, especially in their teen years, to not become that "helicopter parent" always hovering but encourage our kids to become independent. I think I can speak for some who attended boarding schools in Nigeria, that our parents did just that. It may have not been pleasant at the time but made us the ladies we are today. Maybe on a certain level we could try and emulate that.