My Pink Lady Code

Negative thinking will get you nowhere.  I was one of those people that were constantly frustrated and anxious about things that did not matter.  I thought that life was not fair, no one cared about me, I was not good enough, I was not thin enough. Nothing could convince me otherwise.  I was on my way to ground zero.  As they say, better late than never.  It took me until my forties to snap out of it and change my mindset. I started by taking baby steps, living for the now, and trying to turn every negative situation into an opportunity.   I also tried to take control of those elements within my control. For instance, exercising to get my blood pressure down. I had to deal with those issues in my past that kept holding me back. Issues within my family and rejection by friends.  I also grew to appreciate what I had. My aunt used to say, "money can't buy you happiness" and I used to answer, but it helps.  It h...

November is the month when we remember the souls of the faithfully departed in the Catholic Church. I lost 2 uncles and a very good friend.  Ages ranged from 46 to 92. To tell you the truth, I had not seen these people in more than 10 years. However, due to modern technology, I was able to stay in touch with my very good friend and had spoken to my elderly uncle by phone. My uncles lived a full life whilst my friend was not ready for death, and she was so young and wanted to live. And it got me thinking about how important it is that we stay in touch and no matter what age that one is to live life to the fullest. Everyone has an expiratory date. What did these 3 people have in common?   They had brief illnesses before passing away.  I hope before they passed, in that lonely space, they had the opportunity to reflect and seek God's Divine intervention as he is a merciful God. However, I will do my bit and pray for their souls and others around the world. It is impo...

  It is designed to be done in the evening. Prayer of Examen Find 15 minutes in your day and review the last 24 hours using the prayer of Examen.  Here is one way to engage in the practice: Invite the Holy Spirit’s guidance.   Position your body in a posture of attentiveness, but not rigidity – feet flat on the floor, sitting up straight so you can breathe freely.  Take three deep breaths, breathing in God’s blessing and breathing out all that is not of God (your fear, your anxiety, your anger).  Pray this simple prayer, “In your grace, Lord, I want to see the truth of my life through your eyes.  Please reveal it to me.”  Breathe in God’s blessing and breathe out all that is not of God. Review the day with thanksgiving.   Once you have invited the Holy Spirit’s guidance, name the blessings for which you are thankful in the last 24 hours.  As you do this, remember, this is not a time to “count your blessings,” but rather a...

On this lovely day of Ash Wednesday, the first day of Lent, it is time to reflect on ourselves as Christians.  It is particularly challenging when you are catholic.  Some people have asked me over the years if we are true Christians and why we worship Mary, Mother of God. At first, I used to get annoyed, but now I simply answer them and say "I don't worship her, I venerate her".  But what is the difference, one might ask? I simply regard our lady with reverence and respect. I want to share with you a poem that I saw on the net that encompasses mostly how I think of myself as a Christian.  When I say that 'I am a Christian', I am not shouting that 'I am clean living. I'm whispering, 'I was lost, but now I'm found and forgiven.' When I say, 'I am a Christian', I don't speak of this with pride. I'm confessing that I stumble and need Christ to be my guide. When I say 'I am a Christian', I'm not trying to be st...

Hiya It's February, the month of love Many of us are preparing for Valentine's Day to give Love to our loved ones. It's time to reflect not just on our love for others, but for one self and one's ability to do things in this life without inhibitions. Like Sugar Ray Robinson says, "To be a champion, you have to believe in yourself when no one else will".  In other words, embrace the champion that you are, believe in yourself and know that you are worth it. Believe you me, you can only give love to others when you love yourself. In the US, it's also Black History month, a time to reflect on the achievements of Black Americans in general.  As a woman of colour, it's challenging sometimes when we know that we cannot progress due to discrimination and the colour of your skin, and sometimes we feel helpless. You only have to look at the recent Monique situation with pay in the entertainment industry and sigh. However, in this game of li...

1. Firstly, life is like a hotel. You check in and check out when God wants you. Therefore, we have to live our life as spiritually and morally as possible. 2. We need to take care of our bodies and not abuse it as it is a temple. We need to love ourselves better. If we have issues, it is important to take responsibility and not blame others. 3. Find out who really has your best interests at heart. Ask yourself, if you are blessed and acquire wealth and knowledge, will your family love you for yourself or just by the mere association? Will they tell you what you want or need to hear? Will they sell you out when you die for a mere buck? Who will have your back and instil a tough love approach if they get out of line? 4. Surround yourself with good people and not people who may lead you astray or yes men. Yes, we are all humans and can easily be influenced. With God in one's life, temptations can be overcome. 5. In this world where we have a system of raising people...